When my son was playing a solo music piece for big grade he was understandably nervous. Other players and parents were lined up waiting their turn. One mom had advice for the kids I'll never forget. She said "When you go in and sit down, think of your grandparents there with you. It will almost always calm you down." Now I don't know how much scientific evidence there is behind the "calming grandparent" philosophy, but my son said it worked. And I'm not ashamed to say I've used it a time or two as well with great success.
These parents of our parents can love us without the stress of raising us; they can support us without expressing fear that we're going to fail; with new found patience they can teach us things they couldn't their own children; they can even scold our parents! They are unconditional. They are amazing.
If you still have one alive, take time to tell a grandparent how much you love and appreciate them.
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